When I want to know how critical were the parents, I ask the person two questions:
1) What did your mother say when you wanted to criticize?
2) What did your mother say when she wanted to cheer you on, to praise, to support?
If the first question people respond immediately, not long rummaging through the memories, and lists a number of unflattering definitions or hesitate to repeat the words of the mother, and the second can’t remember any nice words, it means that he was raised critical parent.
Silence, deep feelings, tears in response to the first question suggests the same. In dysfunctional families the ratio of censure and praise is at least 10:1. To equalize this ratio or even reach 1:10.
The classic type critical parent is a demanding parent in extreme severity, demanding an extremist. In any critical behavior of the parent finds a drawback, you can specify that you can criticize negatively evaluated.
Criticism is necessary for parents to control the lives of their sons and daughters, to impose their will, be forced to accept what is to be said.
The style of criticism can be as obvious
“You’re something can be done sensibly or you have two left hands?”,
and hidden . enclosed in double message.
— “You are such a good girl, and clever, and beautiful, but the character Continue reading
After long holidays, idleness and arrogant violations of the child “to fight” wakes up in the morning and refuses to meet in kindergarten. Most likely, this problem faced by almost all parents. Let us investigate the reason and how to help the baby to Wake up and not to lose the good mood.
To return the baby in a secure track
Ideally, the daily routine of a child who attends preschool, should the house be close to kindergarten. Mode — the Foundation of good health and mood. Thanks to him, is the process of formation of conditioned reflexes and habits. Children, following a schedule, suffer less from fatigue, stress and nervous exhaustion. In addition, scholars argue that the child is living according to the schedule, the better the performance.
But after a long holiday weekend schedule collapses, knocking of the internal biological clock of the child. Because disorders of sleep and wakefulness he refuses to Wake up in the morning. Tired of working adults want to relax, sleep and rest. Their plans aren’t included early waking up, cooking Breakfast, etc. and Therefore the child during this period is allowed to break all set in the family order. He can go to bed later than usual and Wake up when it’s time for dinner. Continue reading
Since the age of one . all children love to draw. Should they see a pencil or a ballpoint pen, so once they try to catch them in their little hands and decorate your art any tucked under the arm of the paper: a book, a newspaper, and even Wallpaper. Parents, of course, interesting to see what draws their baby. But the year-old child still can’t do anything to draw, so he draws a line, dash and puts a fat point. However, to choose the colors at this age, children can already do and because when you draw try to use bright and colorful palette.
The contrasting colors in a child’s drawing, the hectic in his heart. For example, the combination of bright red color with black speaks about the aggressiveness of the child. and the green with the blue of his mind. Toddlers two years of age are already starting to choose your favorite color and often only painted that color. Very rarely children at this age paint with bright colors, most often they choose dark blue, black, grey and brown.
This is due to the fact that the kid wants his parents noticed his drawings and picks the color that is most contrasting Continue reading