Early childhood — a very short span in the life of a person. But during this time the child acquires significantly more than for the rest of his life. Many psychologists and educators believe that the most important is the age from birth to three years.
Famous Japanese specialist on early development Masaru Ibuka in his book “After three late” tells the story of how early life experiences affect the future destiny of man. The fastest leapfrog development occurs just at this time. But after three years the child continues to learn about the world. So the fact remains — all children of preschool age are unusually sensitive to all kinds of influences. If we do not notice the results of some impacts, this does not suggests that they are not. Preschoolers are ready to chat, learn new skills, develop existing abilities. The task of parents — to put them on the right path.
Visual-figurative thinking begins to emerge in children at the age of one and a half years and finally formed to five years. Using such thinking, the child is able to solve different tasks with real objects. This means that a child aged four to five years do not need to see the object or to take it in hand to answer a question about it. The child may simply represent the subject. Continue reading
Even the little fidgets are bad habits that can bring a parent to desire to chew their own nails. But don’t despair! Expert advice will help you cope with the ugly, and sometimes unhygienic habits of your children.
How to cope with a bad habit baby
With all the adoration of your child, you can’t stand his habit to crack your knuckles, nibbling the nails and interrupting your telephone calls demanding to make him a sandwich. Relax, there is a wise strategy to put an end to such behaviour.
First, you need to understand the motive in his actions. If the child’s champing at the table, maybe he should just talk about the rules of etiquette. But there are steps (thumb sucking or wound on his hair) that indicate a subconscious desire of the child to get reduce stress or boredom.
In this case, requiring a cautious approach. If you are starting to shame or, even worse, to punish the child for such actions, the stress will only increase and worsen the situation. Help the child to find another outlet for his emotions. And don’t forget about the rewards: your daughter spent the whole day biting my nails — let her choose what you will eat for dinner. And don’t skimp on the praise! When you do this, stay patient. Perhaps your Continue reading
When I want to know how critical were the parents, I ask the person two questions:
1) What did your mother say when you wanted to criticize?
2) What did your mother say when she wanted to cheer you on, to praise, to support?
If the first question people respond immediately, not long rummaging through the memories, and lists a number of unflattering definitions or hesitate to repeat the words of the mother, and the second can’t remember any nice words, it means that he was raised critical parent.
Silence, deep feelings, tears in response to the first question suggests the same. In dysfunctional families the ratio of censure and praise is at least 10:1. To equalize this ratio or even reach 1:10.
The classic type critical parent is a demanding parent in extreme severity, demanding an extremist. In any critical behavior of the parent finds a drawback, you can specify that you can criticize negatively evaluated.
Criticism is necessary for parents to control the lives of their sons and daughters, to impose their will, be forced to accept what is to be said.
The style of criticism can be as obvious
“You’re something can be done sensibly or you have two left hands?”,
and hidden . enclosed in double message.
— “You are such a good girl, and clever, and beautiful, but the character Continue reading