I was standing near the escalator and suddenly noticed a young mother who was trying to get his little daughter stand on a moving stage. The child, who looked about four years, lagged behind, clinging to the railing and cried: “no, No, mom, I’m scared!” The mother, whose hands were full of parcels, continued to pull the child “don’t be such a baby, and she said to her – I’m embarrassed for you. There is nothing terrible”.
At this point, tall silver-haired man, who was waiting to get on the escalator, leaned over to the little girl and said, “You know what it is? This is the ladder for young rabbits. At night when the store is closed, they jump on the stairs. It’s their favorite game. But during the day the rabbits are scared of people and hide, allowing boys and girls to go on their stairs for the night.” The girl looked at him. Then with a serious expression trustingly took his hand and together they went up the escalator.
“How wonderful”, I thought to myself. Must this man has children and grandchildren, since he knows so well to distract the child. But something about this situation forced me to return again and again to her. Everything was so cute and yet something was wrong.
I realized this later on tonight. The trouble was that although the girl and persuaded to climb the escalator, no one told her that it is normal that she is afraid. And it is much more Continue reading
For most parents, the deception of the child is perceived very painful. More recently, a kid was “innocent angel”, every action reflected only real. As time passed and came the first negative “the fruits of growing up” – deception and lies. Emotional behavior of the child develops into the logical form of the impact on adults. Instead of “tearfully begging”, there is a habit to lie, to lie, to deceive, to cheat and to “evade”. Because there are so many interesting and want to touch everything and take, and from adults and only heard “no”, “don’t touch, “to scold”. Curiosity pushes the child to get around restrictions by using your imagination, and you receive the children a lie. Parents begin to “sound the alarm” and try to find any ways to relieve your baby from bad habits.
How to start a hoax?
Child development occurs according to the principle “from simple to complex” and people say “small children small problems, big children, big problems”. The older the child becomes, the harder it is his upbringing. The problem of deception exists at any age and, as noted by scholars, to eradicate it is simply impossible. The main thing is to understand the cause of and be able Continue reading
Read articles and forum, and instant tears to the eyes. I had no idea that there is such a beast – OCD. Thought I’m likewise going crazy. Thoughts to kill the baby – and that with a knife or throw out the window, or strangle is in lock – step with me. The trains – insanely afraid of the approaching train, and when you sit in it, just so relieved that everything worked out. I’m afraid to fall under the wheels or suddenly someone throw. Especially creepy when the next closest person. I want at this point definitely bothering him, and it is better to squeeze a hand or even to grab, to hold, to realize that actually I don’t want him to go down: whether to keep him around, to protect from the train, or on the contrary, purely symbolically, as though for fun, there to push (literally half a centimeter) to prove to herself that here, as I do, so I’m not afraid. The same and near highways. Not to say that these thoughts seized me entirely, not let go for a moment and really hurt to live but when it appears, it becomes very, very scary. That is, a situation, in principle, not critical, but it depresses me.
Can you describe the mechanism itself. the motives. Here comes, for example, the thought Continue reading