Very important for parents is knowing the rules of application of methods of education, which A. S. Makarenko called “tool touch of personality”.
All methods of education scientists psychophysiological basis, or the mechanism that operates at the subconscious level. Ignoring it may lead to unpredictable results, so parents need to visualize how they applied the method may have an impact on the consciousness and behavior of the child.
The most common methods of raising children are a positive example, story, conversation, debate, teach, exercise, encouragement and punishment.
In Soviet pedagogy was considered to be the most effective methods of persuasion — a story, a conversation, a debate, otherwise known as verbal. Trusting such a scientific recommendations parents naively believed that after same notations naughty child will certainly improve.
The children perceived tedious instructions how soul-destroying occupation, and the outer reaction “of the object of education” did not reflect internal relationships. The child may exhibit ostentatious attention, but, according to psychologists, if he looks over the top of the head of an adult, Continue reading
The baby grows up, and here the parents noticed that he tends to play with the children, the other ignores. And no amount of persuasion like “look what a good boy, play with him,” do not help. There are children who are very selective in communicating with peers, but there are those who know and love to communicate with everyone.
Why is this happening? What says the choice is the child of a friend or friends with certain qualities, behaviors? This is largely due to temperament and character, but the choice of the child affects his emotional development, internal problems.
So, let’s analyze the child’s choice.
Child easy to contact with all age groups. Such children are few, and if Your child falls into this category, it has a “social intelligence”, i.e. the talent of communication. He has no such problems as anxiety, fears, low self-esteem, shyness.
The child prefers to play with his peers. This is the most common category. Such behavior is natural – the level of development is similar, the interests coincide, as well as social skills.
The child loves to play with kids who are older than him. There may be several reasons: the child intellectual development ahead of their peers, Continue reading
If you ask: “if any of you dear parents that their children grew up a thief?” Probably would answer: “Yes God forbid!” And then you will tell the child that stealing is wrong, for it put him in prison. But after an hour or two, to the annoyance of ads for expensive cars that hit you in the midst of an interesting film, involuntarily exclaim that an honest man, and a lifetime won’t earn as much…
And then you’ll come to “spark” your friend and tell how his neighbor is well settled “drives” abroad copper wire, and have built a house in Cyprus. And the kids hear everything and wound on a mustache. How in such situation to bring honesty? How to develop native Chad hard immunity to other people’s things?
Indeed, it is difficult to understand a grown man, why are his child. which the commandment “thou shalt Not steal” was invested in the ears with very tender age, yesterday suddenly brought from kindergarten someone else’s toy. “Today he pulls the thing out of my pocket, and tomorrow what? – drain the family Bank!” And an angry parent is taken for the belt. To beat a child and scold him, not the solution. It is best to talk to him heart to heart Continue reading