Read articles and forum, and instant tears to the eyes. I had no idea that there is such a beast – OCD. Thought I’m likewise going crazy. Thoughts to kill the baby – and that with a knife or throw out the window, or strangle is in lock – step with me. The trains – insanely afraid of the approaching train, and when you sit in it, just so relieved that everything worked out. I’m afraid to fall under the wheels or suddenly someone throw. Especially creepy when the next closest person. I want at this point definitely bothering him, and it is better to squeeze a hand or even to grab, to hold, to realize that actually I don’t want him to go down: whether to keep him around, to protect from the train, or on the contrary, purely symbolically, as though for fun, there to push (literally half a centimeter) to prove to herself that here, as I do, so I’m not afraid. The same and near highways. Not to say that these thoughts seized me entirely, not let go for a moment and really hurt to live but when it appears, it becomes very, very scary. That is, a situation, in principle, not critical, but it depresses me.
Can you describe the mechanism itself. the motives. Here comes, for example, the thought Continue reading
Violence against children in the family is always amazing, especially when we see them nose to nose. The helplessness in this situation, the inability to help the child, empathy for the tiny creature that cannot defend itself – all these feelings overwhelm, when you see a father or mother, in a frenzy Loupian their child. What to do and how to help your child? First we need to help parents.
Sometimes parents beat their children just because, no reason, no reason at all. Just for wymesone evil or approval of their authoritarian rule. And in the vast majority of cases, parents beat children, so they called educational purposes – usually, the punishment for misdemeanors and neposlushaniya.
Violence in the family, children need help or parents?
Once outside the shop I saw a boy, 7 years old, crying bitterly. He quietly sobbed and no visual woman would be unable to pass by without him sympathetically. But no one passed by and the boy apparently cried alone.
I approached him and asked if he lost? He shook his head. And continued to cry. After a brief conversation, it became clear that the child is afraid of his father, afraid to go home. He was sniffling, looked back and was told that if the house Continue reading
The baby grows up, and here the parents noticed that he tends to play with the children, the other ignores. And no amount of persuasion like “look what a good boy, play with him,” do not help. There are children who are very selective in communicating with peers, but there are those who know and love to communicate with everyone.
Why is this happening? What says the choice is the child of a friend or friends with certain qualities, behaviors? This is largely due to temperament and character, but the choice of the child affects his emotional development, internal problems.
So, let’s analyze the child’s choice.
Child easy to contact with all age groups. Such children are few, and if Your child falls into this category, it has a “social intelligence”, i.e. the talent of communication. He has no such problems as anxiety, fears, low self-esteem, shyness.
The child prefers to play with his peers. This is the most common category. Such behavior is natural – the level of development is similar, the interests coincide, as well as social skills.
The child loves to play with kids who are older than him. There may be several reasons: the child intellectual development ahead of their peers, Continue reading