Child loves to play
The baby grows up, and here the parents noticed that he tends to play with the children, the other ignores. And no amount of persuasion like “look what a good boy, play with him,” do not help. There are children who are very selective in communicating with peers, but there are those who know and love to communicate with everyone.
Why is this happening? What says the choice is the child of a friend or friends with certain qualities, behaviors? This is largely due to temperament and character, but the choice of the child affects his emotional development, internal problems.
So, let’s analyze the child’s choice.
Child easy to contact with all age groups. Such children are few, and if Your child falls into this category, it has a “social intelligence”, i.e. the talent of communication. He has no such problems as anxiety, fears, low self-esteem, shyness.
The child prefers to play with his peers. This is the most common category. Such behavior is natural – the level of development is similar, the interests coincide, as well as social skills.
The child loves to play with kids who are older than him. There may be several reasons: the child intellectual development ahead of their peers, he “outgrew” their games, interests; the child is not well developed ability to communicate “equal”. Often those are the only children in the family who do not attend the kindergarten, educated family idols. They expect leniency, concessions, do not know how to reckon with the opinion of another child. And more adult children find this behavior amusing.
The child prefers to play with kids. In these games the elder child feels capable, experienced. I especially love messing around with little ones girls, this is caused by the formation of role behavior (girls “try on” the role of mother, teacher, mentor, etc.). Even though the game with a toddler is useful, worth considering if the child doesn’t play with his peers. Possibly because his peers do not accept (transfer to another school, underdeveloped communication skills, etc.). In this case, the child needs the help of parents or a psychologist.
The child plays only with adults. Often such children – “home”, not attending a children’s team, all imitate like an adult (“adult” speech, the exponential behavior, the lack of children’s games and amusements). The consequence of this behavior is the inability to communicate with peers, problems in communication later in school.
Kids under 2 don’t care who plays with them – boy or girl.
About 3 years the child begins to be aware of their sexual identity (I am a girl/boy), so 3-4 year old children may prefer to play with kids of the same sex. And games boys and girls begin to differ, if first I like to play with toy cars, the designer, the latter (girls) focus on the dolls, soft toys, mini-copies of appliances. Boys and more girls are playing outdoor, noisy games.
If the child is interested in playing with children of the opposite sex, it should be considered that it lags behind in development, or he formed an incorrect role behavior? When a boy of 4 years from time to time plays with dolls, while not forgetting about the “boys ‘” games, and role-playing game chooses a male role – dad, chauffeur, etc. then most likely, it simply copies the actions of peers (girls). At this age children tend to imitate, they try to repeat and copy the actions of other children, the behavior of adults as seen on TV. If the boy escapes the “boys ‘” fun and games, steadfastly prefers the company of girls, adults need to think about. Such behavior can eventually lead to serious problems resulting from errors in the education, internal fears of the child. Need to pay attention to how often communicates a boy with my dad, grandfather (if he had a worthy example of male behavior); who was wanted by the mother during pregnancy – your son or daughter, and how it affects her relationship to the child. The same applies to girls, persistent refusal “girly” games may indicate a number of problems in the emotional state.
In 5-6 years the desire for a variety of games is becoming more obvious. But amid division games on the “sexual” roles interest in the opposite sex increases. Children can play together, but the boys will choose a male role, and girls women’s or role does not have gender differences (for example, the game in the store). If at this age the child prefers to play with children of the opposite sex, maybe he is trying to meet the expectations of an adult! For example, mom likes that the son is calm, soft, it encourages this behavior, thus imposing his traits of feminine behavior; or dad admires that her daughter is able to stand up for themselves, he teaches her aggressive game, and the girl tries not to disappoint the expectations of his father.
With 6-7 years, boys and girls become more tolerant of each other. They share a common role of students, school interests. However, play active games at recess. Therefore if at this age child loves to play with children of the opposite sex, this is not an indicator, although the majority of children in the games retain the preference to children of their gender.
The end of primary school – starts the division of the class into “male” and “female” halves. Mutual sympathy to Express openly not accepted, the relationship between the sexes can sometimes remind the fighting. If at this age the child prefers to communicate with children of the opposite sex, is to keep an eye on him. Most likely these children have problems with adaptation in the children’s team, in communicating with peers of their own sex.
During adolescence boys and girls play together most often in sports games, the rest of the time they are divided into “groups of interests”. If a son or daughter love to play, to communicate with the opposite sex, it speaks of their normal sexual development.
The number of children Children, like adults, can be. introverts (when a man seeks in himself, prefers a small company, not burdened by loneliness, has a few close friends) or extrovert (person needs in constant communication, he like big noisy companies, can communicate with different people). Depending on these characteristics, and also on the temperament and character of the child tends to play with many children or only one friend.
Now it became clear that attentive adult can can learn a lot about the baby, watching who he’s playing what roles you prefer to take. The child is constantly changing. What has been the norm in one age, should be alerted in the other.
Recall that in the series “Children’s games” used book Tatiana the block type processed “Great games with little children.” I advise you to read!