Tools of pedagogical influence – How to bring up children in the family
Topic “mother’s “why?””, where on the issues associated with raising the little ones, will be answered by experienced professionals. Will print the advice of moms and dads gleaned from their piggy banks family experience.
The education of children in the family
Means of pedagogical influence
In the most General form of the means of pedagogical influence is divided into persuasion, coercion, encouragement, punishment.
There is not educational tools, suitable for all occasions. Any educational tool can be good or bad depending on specific conditions.
Each of these funds is suitable only in a certain system of education. That’s why parents and educators have an obligation to seriously consider what educational impact they can apply in each case.
Young children are very obedient, and every suggestion adults, especially parents and caregivers, usually accept unquestioningly.
Becoming older and claiming some independence, they sometimes have a resistance to the order of the parents. In such cases it is advisable to apply persuasion, to explain to the child why he should do as he proposes.
If persuasion fails, it is necessary to use coercion, i.e. to force a child to do the right thing.
Good behavior the child should be encouraged best endorsement of the deed, praise. Evil actions should be warned, but in the case of persistent disobedience, you can apply the punishment. You can elect different forms of punishment for the bad behavior of the child: to deprive it of its Goodies, the money to buy a ticket to the movies, to refrain from gift or promised to cancel the joint walk in the city, etc.
To the measures of constraint resort is impossible; remember that children are very sensitive not only to physical pain, much to the affront to their personal dignity. In adolescents the use of physical punishment sometimes leads to a complete rupture of relations with parents.
A lot of grieving parents take the whims of the child when he or worthless about, seemingly for no reason starts to cry, scream, fall to the floor, stomps. Attempts to comfort him do not reach the goal.
Meanwhile, the whims of children reasonably. Sometimes the moods are the result of disease of the child. He “feels bad”, his fever, his temperature rises. It imperceptibly, but Caprice in such cases, normally calm child is a symptom of the disease starting.
In another case, the child is naughty, if he is not asleep or forgot to feed. Is to correct this mistake, and he calms down.
Often the mother persuades the child to eat, but he stubbornly refuses. Entreaties followed by begging, promises a variety of gifts and entertainment, and yet the stubbornness of a child cannot break. In such cases, you should cease to persuade the child to take food.
Often the whims of the child are the result of improper upbringing: a spoiled child used to the fact that all his whims are executed unconditionally. To overcome childhood whims can recommend the following techniques: distraction of the child that was the cause of a whim, and switch his attention to another activity; calm ignoring of Caprice; in some cases useful method of “natural consequences” (burned on a hot kettle, go hungry, etc.).
At a very early age, the child is only the object of education, but when he was the first to insist that he will do something, it would be a sign of emerging independence in it.
In the first years of life it is extremely small, but it needs to maintain and develop, helping the child to solve simple tasks in life.
Before a teenager can put these tasks, which he must decide for himself. This also applies to the correction of the bad traits, overcoming bad habits, and to commit noble deeds.
Crucial to the success of education in the family is a thoughtful individual approach to children. Children differ from each other by their bodily Constitution, temperament and natural inclinations that require individual adjustments in the educational approach.
For example, the child is slow, phlegmatic should be accustomed to faster reactions, the child rolling, fast need to patiently develop the skills of deterrence, inhibition.
Some children better has a strict approach on the other – the affection, belief.
To find the right individual approach, parents need to closely examine their children and to practice to determine what methods and techniques are better for them. Neglect of an individual approach to the child leads to defects in his mental, physical, moral development and causes the need for re-education.
Special responsibility imposes on parents parenting an only child and mother of adopted children.
The art of raising parents possess immediately, but only in the process of accumulation of experience and the acquisition of pedagogical knowledge.
Many errors and mistakes in the upbringing of children is not allowed by the evil will of their parents, not because of a lack of a sense of duty, but because of pedagogical illiteracy, lack of basic information in the field of physiology, psychology, pedagogy.
Meanwhile, in order to successfully raise children, we need to know the specifics of child psychology. In the press publishes various articles but separate problems of family education. Publishers produce special pedagogical library in aid of the family.
Makarenko A. Book for parents. Lectures on the education of children. Speeches on questions of family education, Works, vol. 4;
Lebedev V. A. and Mityushkina L. P. First time in first class;
Pechernikova I. A. Adolescents. Teaching the novel; her own, the Education of obedience and diligence of the children in the family;
Markova T. A. Teach your young children into domestic work;
Stroeva A., Children, film and TV;
Naumov B. I. The rewards and punishments in the family;
Titomirov N. N. Children’s reading in the family;
Aesthetic education in the family. Collection of articles;
School, family and the public;
Reznikov A. and Krestinsky A. About difficult children;
Asaturova K. Letters to parents;
Pints of A. This is for you, parents;
The B. Krajewski School – yard – flat;
Grigoryan L. Children and parents;
Peruvian Children grow quickly;
Ovchinnikov and I. Sivashinsky I. How to help children learn;
Makarova N. High post – father!;
Levshin L. Let the teachers Council;
Willow L. Y. Peculiarities of education of children and adolescents in the transition to adulthood;
In the family children grow. (Collection of articles);
The first child in the family
Yakovlev V. G. Physical education of children in the family;
Let’s talk about our children. A collection of conversations, short stories and essays;