I asked Light – Goddess, Julia – Miss Julie, the other girls about what interesting things I have learned in the previous training module.
A lot of that is so important for the majority of the theme of how family relationships and parenting.
I promised the Light to tell what it was valuable, so I will try to create one or even several themes, where will present different utility. If you interesting and need, then I will continue. If it turns out that not really need and not super interested, that’s OK too. I it still already know
Give small portions. One thought – one topic for discussion.
Well, here, for example, this:
As the relationship between parents affect the development and education of the child?
– Striking was the following observation: when the parents are close to each other, emotionally spend more time with each other than the patient, the patient’s condition improves. When either parent becomes more emotionally connected with the patient than with the other parent, then the patient is immediately and automatically getting worse. When parents have emotional intimacy, then they can’t choose the wrong approach to the education of the patient. Continue reading
Very important for parents is knowing the rules of application of methods of education, which A. S. Makarenko called “tool touch of personality”.
All methods of education scientists psychophysiological basis, or the mechanism that operates at the subconscious level. Ignoring it may lead to unpredictable results, so parents need to visualize how they applied the method may have an impact on the consciousness and behavior of the child.
The most common methods of raising children are a positive example, story, conversation, debate, teach, exercise, encouragement and punishment.
In Soviet pedagogy was considered to be the most effective methods of persuasion — a story, a conversation, a debate, otherwise known as verbal. Trusting such a scientific recommendations parents naively believed that after same notations naughty child will certainly improve.
The children perceived tedious instructions how soul-destroying occupation, and the outer reaction “of the object of education” did not reflect internal relationships. The child may exhibit ostentatious attention, but, according to psychologists, if he looks over the top of the head of an adult, Continue reading
If you ask: “if any of you dear parents that their children grew up a thief?” Probably would answer: “Yes God forbid!” And then you will tell the child that stealing is wrong, for it put him in prison. But after an hour or two, to the annoyance of ads for expensive cars that hit you in the midst of an interesting film, involuntarily exclaim that an honest man, and a lifetime won’t earn as much…
And then you’ll come to “spark” your friend and tell how his neighbor is well settled “drives” abroad copper wire, and have built a house in Cyprus. And the kids hear everything and wound on a mustache. How in such situation to bring honesty? How to develop native Chad hard immunity to other people’s things?
Indeed, it is difficult to understand a grown man, why are his child. which the commandment “thou shalt Not steal” was invested in the ears with very tender age, yesterday suddenly brought from kindergarten someone else’s toy. “Today he pulls the thing out of my pocket, and tomorrow what? – drain the family Bank!” And an angry parent is taken for the belt. To beat a child and scold him, not the solution. It is best to talk to him heart to heart Continue reading