If you ask: “if any of you dear parents that their children grew up a thief?” Probably would answer: “Yes God forbid!” And then you will tell the child that stealing is wrong, for it put him in prison. But after an hour or two, to the annoyance of ads for expensive cars that hit you in the midst of an interesting film, involuntarily exclaim that an honest man, and a lifetime won’t earn as much…
And then you’ll come to “spark” your friend and tell how his neighbor is well settled “drives” abroad copper wire, and have built a house in Cyprus. And the kids hear everything and wound on a mustache. How in such situation to bring honesty? How to develop native Chad hard immunity to other people’s things?
Indeed, it is difficult to understand a grown man, why are his child. which the commandment “thou shalt Not steal” was invested in the ears with very tender age, yesterday suddenly brought from kindergarten someone else’s toy. “Today he pulls the thing out of my pocket, and tomorrow what? – drain the family Bank!” And an angry parent is taken for the belt. To beat a child and scold him, not the solution. It is best to talk to him heart to heart Continue reading
the Plan-prospectus manuscripts “Children in carousel divorce”
1. Prejudices about the divorce. Can a divorce be prosperous. The science part. How to learn to divorce psychologically competently. Family problems of women in Russia and abroad. Liability of spouses for their children’s fate. What are the consequences for the child, no family.
2. Family nest – a memory or a dream? The family integrity. What are the family. Patriarchal and maternal family. What mom and dad – fatherhood and motherhood, masculinity and femininity. Division of responsibilities – who in the family home? The resilience of the family. Problematic and harmonious family.
3. The path to divorce . Background separation. Dissatisfaction with the marriage. Desired or undesired children. Parent script. Contribution of the older generation in the family relationships. Rejection daughters-in-law and son-in-law. Giperprotektsiya. Parental feelings of grandparents to the child. The child as a hostage marital difficulties. Parent infantilism.
4. The first conversation. The decision to divorce and the training of the child. Methods of interviewing children of different ages. Typical mistakes divorcing parents: manipulation of the child’s feelings, mutual accusations of the spouses, Continue reading
For many new parents this is a difficult question the severity or softness in the child’s upbringing. The vast majority of new parents soon find the answer to this question. But for some, it remains an unsolved problem, despite all the experience.
First of all I should clarify that, in my opinion, it’s not the severity or softness. Good parents who are not afraid to insist on when you get good results at moderate severity, and at a moderate softness. On the other hand, the severity, coming from coarseness or softness, which grew out of shyness or lack of principles, can lead to bad results. The result of education depends not on the degree of severity or mildness, and your feelings to the child and from those life principles that he gets you.
Modern views on child rearing
Modern views on child rearing is largely different from the past. We imagine a clearer fundamental changes in the principles of education, if you make a little history of this question.
The degree of rigor in the education of children has varied in different eras. For example, in the nineteenth century were persistently raised external modesty and manners. In the XX century, especially after the first world war, there was a sharp Continue reading