The baby grows up, and here the parents noticed that he tends to play with the children, the other ignores. And no amount of persuasion like “look what a good boy, play with him,” do not help. There are children who are very selective in communicating with peers, but there are those who know and love to communicate with everyone.
Why is this happening? What says the choice is the child of a friend or friends with certain qualities, behaviors? This is largely due to temperament and character, but the choice of the child affects his emotional development, internal problems.
So, let’s analyze the child’s choice.
Child easy to contact with all age groups. Such children are few, and if Your child falls into this category, it has a “social intelligence”, i.e. the talent of communication. He has no such problems as anxiety, fears, low self-esteem, shyness.
The child prefers to play with his peers. This is the most common category. Such behavior is natural – the level of development is similar, the interests coincide, as well as social skills.
The child loves to play with kids who are older than him. There may be several reasons: the child intellectual development ahead of their peers, Continue reading
If you ask: “if any of you dear parents that their children grew up a thief?” Probably would answer: “Yes God forbid!” And then you will tell the child that stealing is wrong, for it put him in prison. But after an hour or two, to the annoyance of ads for expensive cars that hit you in the midst of an interesting film, involuntarily exclaim that an honest man, and a lifetime won’t earn as much…
And then you’ll come to “spark” your friend and tell how his neighbor is well settled “drives” abroad copper wire, and have built a house in Cyprus. And the kids hear everything and wound on a mustache. How in such situation to bring honesty? How to develop native Chad hard immunity to other people’s things?
Indeed, it is difficult to understand a grown man, why are his child. which the commandment “thou shalt Not steal” was invested in the ears with very tender age, yesterday suddenly brought from kindergarten someone else’s toy. “Today he pulls the thing out of my pocket, and tomorrow what? – drain the family Bank!” And an angry parent is taken for the belt. To beat a child and scold him, not the solution. It is best to talk to him heart to heart Continue reading
Interview with a clinical psychologist Children’s hospital of St. Mary Magdalene Pavel Vladimirovich Mamayev
– Pavel Vladimirovich, what point of development the child can talk about the psyche?
it ’ s Mental development of the child begins in utero. It was at this time forming the basic characteristics of mental processes. It is difficult to determine, whether inherited or that trait, or it is formed at the earliest stages of development. Mother and unborn child – one organism. So those experiences that mother feels, to a certain extent, is also a little child. When the baby is born, he finds himself in very unusual conditions. Now much has been written and spoken about the importance of the first latch. Among other things, this is one of the most important moments of mental development, when formed by the basic trust in the world. World for a child may be assessed as a friendly phenomenon, with which you can interact on a confidential basis, to use its resources, to transform it. Conversely, the child may perceive the world as a hostile environment, where all unknown poses a threat. Such children are visible at once. They can be trapped, enslaved, may show protective aggression. Basic trust in the world is entirely dependent on the mother, her relationship to the child.
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