Violence against children in the family is always amazing, especially when we see them nose to nose. The helplessness in this situation, the inability to help the child, empathy for the tiny creature that cannot defend itself – all these feelings overwhelm, when you see a father or mother, in a frenzy Loupian their child. What to do and how to help your child? First we need to help parents.
Sometimes parents beat their children just because, no reason, no reason at all. Just for wymesone evil or approval of their authoritarian rule. And in the vast majority of cases, parents beat children, so they called educational purposes – usually, the punishment for misdemeanors and neposlushaniya.
Violence in the family, children need help or parents?
Once outside the shop I saw a boy, 7 years old, crying bitterly. He quietly sobbed and no visual woman would be unable to pass by without him sympathetically. But no one passed by and the boy apparently cried alone.
I approached him and asked if he lost? He shook his head. And continued to cry. After a brief conversation, it became clear that the child is afraid of his father, afraid to go home. He was sniffling, looked back and was told that if the house Continue reading
Very important for parents is knowing the rules of application of methods of education, which A. S. Makarenko called “tool touch of personality”.
All methods of education scientists psychophysiological basis, or the mechanism that operates at the subconscious level. Ignoring it may lead to unpredictable results, so parents need to visualize how they applied the method may have an impact on the consciousness and behavior of the child.
The most common methods of raising children are a positive example, story, conversation, debate, teach, exercise, encouragement and punishment.
In Soviet pedagogy was considered to be the most effective methods of persuasion — a story, a conversation, a debate, otherwise known as verbal. Trusting such a scientific recommendations parents naively believed that after same notations naughty child will certainly improve.
The children perceived tedious instructions how soul-destroying occupation, and the outer reaction “of the object of education” did not reflect internal relationships. The child may exhibit ostentatious attention, but, according to psychologists, if he looks over the top of the head of an adult, Continue reading
The baby grows up, and here the parents noticed that he tends to play with the children, the other ignores. And no amount of persuasion like “look what a good boy, play with him,” do not help. There are children who are very selective in communicating with peers, but there are those who know and love to communicate with everyone.
Why is this happening? What says the choice is the child of a friend or friends with certain qualities, behaviors? This is largely due to temperament and character, but the choice of the child affects his emotional development, internal problems.
So, let’s analyze the child’s choice.
Child easy to contact with all age groups. Such children are few, and if Your child falls into this category, it has a “social intelligence”, i.e. the talent of communication. He has no such problems as anxiety, fears, low self-esteem, shyness.
The child prefers to play with his peers. This is the most common category. Such behavior is natural – the level of development is similar, the interests coincide, as well as social skills.
The child loves to play with kids who are older than him. There may be several reasons: the child intellectual development ahead of their peers, Continue reading